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Seeing estranged family at funeral mumsnet. My grandad on my dad’s side passed away this week and I’ve found out through my Apr 25, 2025 · Estranged from parent - my choice due to years of abuse, constant abandonment etc. Oct 14, 2025 · Entirely your choice but if you feel it would be difficult being around your wider (estranged ) family it might be better not to go and I think if it were me I wouldn’t. You get closure by making it with yourself. It is a supportive and engaging community for adult children where a conscious decision to estrange from one or both of their parents has been made Jan 15, 2014 · The first time this happened was when I was in my 20s, then again in my 40s, twice, and latterly, in my 50s we were virtually snubbed at my aunties funeral by her and my poor Mum was treated very badly. Jul 10, 2021 · It sounds like you would be uprooting your family to care for your mum, and your brother and SIL would turn up fortnightly to make your lives a misery, your mum would give your brother all the credit while you did all the work. The only surviving blood relations are myself and my Dec 28, 2021 · If you're estranged from your parent, siblings, relatives, or a narcissist, did you attend the funeral, memorial, or social function in which the toxic people attended? Feb 6, 2024 · Really triggering segment on Radio 2 today on family estrangement, did anyone else hear it? Anyone affected by it. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody Jun 17, 2021 · Hi, So I’m NC with my mum and very LC with my gran, her mother. Estranged older half sibling (s Apr 24, 2025 · Needspaceforlego · 24/04/2025 13:38 Sorry but it sounds like their has been a family fallout and they were effectively estranged or NC as MN likes to put it. . We were all 'airbrushed' from the eulogy and told we couldn't send flowers as it was for 'immediate family' only. And this is the result, people fall out and people get hurt. Hope your Dad is OK and bridges can be built with your cousins. This sub is a safe space and closely moderated. Should they say goodbye? Attend the funeral? Send flowers? Jun 15, 2024 · I’m an adult child estranged from my siblings and I’m interested to hear how other parents manage family occasions etc when two siblings/close family May 2, 2019 · Posting here for traffic. Basic is I have a moral dilema. Sibling has asked me to go to hospital to see them on death bed. May 21, 2020 · Numbers are limited at funerals so if you haven't spoken to that side of the family they may have already 'filled' that number. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Going to the funeral of an estranged parent doesn't give closure. Parents of Estranged Adult Children are NOT welcome to participate in this sub. The fact that they're estranged often means we hear the news out of the blue, and this can bring with it huge shock. Though emotions are sure to be high, the funeral is not the place to settle old scores. Death of an estranged parent Dealing with the death of a toxic and/or estranged parent can feel uniquely Oct 28, 2021 · His family i believe will have all been aware i existed because he was married to my mother and i apparently met my extended family. I will add that other than one uncle none of them actually tried to have and contact with me either. You can still remember the person in your own way - light a candle at the time of their funeral or go for a walk and place some flowers at a place which perhaps was important to that person / yourself and have a few moments Mar 30, 2024 · Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. TBH it sounds like a recipe for disaster from your point of view. Sep 21, 2023 · If you do decide to attend the funeral, it is important to be respectful and avoid any arguments or conflict with attendees and other family members. May 2, 2019 · Posting here for traffic. Father recently diagnosed with a life threatening illness. Estranged older half sibling (s An estranged family member's death can have a huge effect upon us. I guess the reason i feel i should attend his funeral, is closure rather than respect. Sep 6, 2010 · The logistics of the funeral plan can have an influence on whether or not you go. An estranged family member who I had quite a big falling out with will Estrangement is a healthy response to an unhealthy situation. But you have to respect their wishes for the funeral Apr 10, 2023 · The illness or death of an estranged family member can be vexing for surviving relatives. Mar 9, 2024 · My relative sadly passed away recently and the funeral will be in a few weeks. In fact it often opens up worse feeling of abandonment etc that can never be put right. If you’re not comfortable asking the family member in charge of planning the funeral about these issues, phone the funeral director and explain your situation. In this article, we'll look at how to navigate this shock and grief, attending the funeral, coping with unresolved emotions, moving forward after the loss, and much more. Haven't seen them in 20+ years. Nov 20, 2021 · My uncle who was estranged from the family for the past 10 years I have just found out has died. bklgqjemdegesncpcgnqwbuaqczzofuwxqbmkqoiietgt